Guilty Until Proven Innocent - Why You Gotta be a Realist When Dating
Alright, I’m typically all for being a hopeless romantic and positive thinking. But I’m going to tell you a harsh truth that you need to hear: That Hollywood lovey-dovey bullshit is a lie. It rarely exists in the real world.
When it comes to dating, Including myself, everyone is trying to put on their best behavior when they first meet someone.
And that’s the best-case scenario. Some people are straight-up lying about who they are on dating apps and first dates.
It’s a fucking wild world out here my friend and you have to adopt a “guilty until proven innocent” mentality.
I’m not saying that you need to interrogate and cyber-stalk your dates to find out everything about them. But you need to do this.
No matter how pretty, cool, or sweet a girl seems to you. Until you have known and observed her over a long period of time, you can NOT build a mental fantasy about her.
You don’t know her. She could be lying to you to get what she wants. And trust me, this is not an uncommon occurrence.
As selective as I am about who I match with and ask out on dates, I have been fooled by some of these girls.
Not gonna get specific here. But I’ve had these experiences just in 1 month of dating.
Meeting a “good religious girl” only to find out she has a sugar daddy on the down low
Meeting a “looking for LTR” girl only to find out she had an excessive hookup history
Meeting an Eastern European only to find out she is a hardcore feminist
Of course, I don’t want to sound like a cynic here and turn you off from dating. That’s stupid. How sad and empty life would be without love. I still believe in it and I’ve met good girls also.
You need to be a realist when it comes to dating and meeting new girls. Statistically, It’s very possible that she is not who she presents herself to be.
Don’t fall head over heels for some girl you just met. Treat all your dates with respect and still be a gentleman. But at the same time, don’t play yourself and get burned.
I WILL REPEAT THIS AGAIN - YOU DON’T KNOW THE REAL HER, YET.
You need to observe every girl you meet over a period of time before you know who she really is. Hope for the best, but don’t create a fantasy about someone you barely know.