How to Treat Dating Like Sales and Not Get Overly Emotional
I’m writing this post both for you and myself. Today I lost a high-ticket client and 2 girls in one day so I’m just LOLing at the randomness of the universe right now.
And last week my life was going so well, lol.
Whatever, life happens and there will always be ups and downs. I’m feeling happy and peaceful again but I’d be lying to say that I wasn’t a bit pissed off earlier.
Often, you can apply the lessons you learned from one area of your life to other areas as well.
And what I learned in business is that sales really is a numbers game.
Sometimes you get a bunch of clients within the same week and you get a big payday, and sometimes you have to endure a short period of dry spell.
Same thing with getting girls. There are so many similarities between both.
Of course, having a great offer (who you are as a man) and funnel (your ability to meet new women) is non-negotiable and will maximize your chances in business (dating).
But sometimes you just have to accept there are things outside of your control and you just have to roll with the punches and make the best moves regardless of what’s happening around you.
Sometimes a girl will get with you for reasons that have very little to do with you, and sometimes a girl just vanishes for reasons that have nothing to do with you.
My old mentor who is insanely experienced with legit stunners told me that it’s very important you don’t base your sense of self on how many women you slept with.
If you get laid, don’t build an ego around it. If you get rejected by 10 girls in a row, don’t build an ego around it.
When you are meeting new women either through social circles or online. There are so many random factors outside of your control.
It’s very very important you don’t get overly emotionally attached to some new girl you just met/slept with.
When you just met someone, you don’t even know who she really is. IMO it takes at least a few months of dating to really know someone.
Almost no girl is fully honest and transparent when they first meet you, and it’s just human nature don’t be upset about it.
After you meet a lot of women then you can spot red/green flags faster, but it takes real-world experience.
Don’t make a fantasy or future projection of someone you just met. You don’t know her and her life situation. Until you guys have been dating/fucking for a while, nothing is guaranteed.
Maybe she gets back with her ex, maybe you find out later that she is a liar.
Just an example. Not talking about anyone in particular.
Take me as an example, my main focus is on growing my biz, writing helpful blogs for you guys, getting jacked, and training in MMA.
If I start wasting mental energy on thinking about some new girls I just met a while ago I will make them the center of my life and fuck things up anyway.
Especially with hot girls who have limitless options with successful and good-looking guys.
They will lose respect and drop you like a bad habit if you are even slightly emotionally affected by them.
And I caught myself making that mistake because one of the girls was pretty hot and I got a bit too excited too soon.
I won’t be hard on myself, it happens and I was out of the game for a long time. I will get more battle-hardened in no time.
And I know I will get with new girls who are just as attractive if not more in the future. This is not me coping, I know this from my past experience.
So when something like this happens to you, it’s actually a golden opportunity for you to grow as a man.
What is masculinity anyway? Being stoic and enduring shit storms while remaining perfectly calm and still.
A few rules all of us have to follow.
You have to have a bigger goal/mission in life that’s not about getting women. Your goals and life missions always come first, no exception.
Even if things are going well with some girls you’ve been seeing for a bit, you don’t get lazy and comfortable. Still, meet more girls on the side.
If a girl starts to pull away. You never chase her. No double texting, no simping. You let her go and focus on finding new girls.
Treat your dating life as running a sales funnel. You don’t get emotionally attached to any new lead. You focus on keeping the sales funnel full at all times.
Yes, I talk about connecting with women because they are real human beings with hopes and dreams. But at the same time, it’s important to be very rational about your dating life and have a practical approach.