How to Look Sexier with Body Language in Your Dating Photos - Pt 1

There’s a saying that goes “One picture is worth a thousand words”.

Why?

Because as humans, we are constantly communicating with each other by non-verbal signals (non-Verbal Communication is the transmission of signals through a nonverbal platform such as eye contact, facial expressions, gestures, and posture.

Since photos mostly show body language and facial expression, we will disregard the rest). And these signals are communicated and interpreted by our subconscious limbic system which bypasses the analytical part of the brain.

What this means is that we have very little control over these signals and they tend to be way more honest and authentic than all the words we say.

Therefore, we intuitively trust these non-verbal signals more than actual words. And women can tell so much about you just by looking at non-verbal signals in your photos.

Today, I want to share some very important concepts on non-verbal communication and help you look like a total sexy badass in your tinder photos.

I think we can all agree that most women are attracted to very masculine men and not weak little boys. So, in order to maximize your success with online dating, you want to display traits of masculinity with your non-verbal signals.

So what exactly does it mean to be “masculine”? A wise friend once told me that being masculine means being able to stay calm in a sea of chaos, being a man on his mission, and being a strong, benevolent leader, unconditionally. I couldn’t agree more.

How would you describe someone like that? Some words that directly come to mind are: relaxed, content, stoic, determined, driven, loving, and fearless. If you haven’t embodied these traits, it’s time to start working on becoming a better man.

But what if you already have some of these qualities and just don’t know how to show them via 4-5 photos? What if you just tense up every time the camera comes out and your photos just don’t do your justice? Well, keep reading......

If you are already opening a new browser tab and googling masculine photos poses...STOP RIGHT NOW! It’s not how it works. When I first started to take Tinder photos for men, I would try to pose/direct my clients as if they were highly trained models.

But it almost never worked. The Guys always looked a bit robotic and incongruent. And over the years I realized that your non-verbal communication is a reflection of your inner emotional state. And you can’t really cheat the highly intuitive limbic system with poses, sadly.

In other words, get in the right emotional state first, and good non-verbal signals will follow. This has been the very foundation of my approach to taking Tinder photos that actually work.

Occasionally, I’ll get a client who naturally has really good non-verbal communication and doesn’t need too much direction, but that is super rare, and 90% of the clients I meet need some sort of coaching.

Statistically speaking, you the reader probably fall into the latter category.

But no worries: this is not a death sentence. I’m going to show you how I get my clients into the right emotional state and fix their non-verbal communication. If you apply these steps on your next photoshoot, you’ll see a big difference.

Keep in mind that I’m highly intuitive when it comes to reading body language and facial expressions, and very empathetic and good at influencing emotions. Therefore, I’m able to give accurate feedback and effective guidance to my clients.

It’s a rare skill and only a small percentage of photographers can do this. So please hire the right photographer who can do that for you. Or come to Vancouver and hire me haha.

Anyways, enough self-promo, let’s get started!

The first thing I tell my clients is, to let go of any pressure/expectation and become as relaxed and present as possible. What exactly does that mean? It means that you are fully grounded in your body and have very little mental chatter.

You are not thinking about the past and future, you are not self-conscious about how you appear on the camera, and you are not worried about what the passerby thinks of you. You are just enjoying living in the now.

If you have been practicing mediation this will come very easy to you. But for those of you who aren’t new-age hippies, how do you get to a point of full relaxation and presence? Easy, and here are the simple steps.

Step 1, forget that there’s a photographer taking photos of you.

Pretend you are just waiting for a buddy who’s running a bit late, and you are just chilling while waiting for him. This will help you ease off the pressure you may put on yourself.

So just chill out, you are not under any pressure to put on a sexy look for the camera at this moment. Just check out the surroundings and observe the people/dogs/cool cars/pretty girls walking by. You get the idea.

Step 2, tell the photographer to put away the camera (until you are in the zone) and just make some small talk with them.

Crack some jokes and get to know each other a bit more. This will help you build more familiarity with the photographer and make you feel more comfortable (relaxed) around them.

Step 3, tell yourself that you are not in any rush to “get in the zone” and start the photoshoot session.

Of course, logically it makes sense to want to be ready ASAP since you are paying for this shit. But that would just be counterproductive and add more unnecessary pressure on yourself.

Almost everyone that has come to my shoot needed some time at the start to get relaxed and loose anyway. So there’s no need to rush it or be worried.

If you are feeling tense at the beginning, just trust the process and know that as time passes you’ll be relaxed.

How much time is needed is dependent on the individual. (Some may take just 20 mins, some may take an hour but eventually, everyone will be) So just be patient and chill out, you’ll be fine.

So you’ve done all these steps, how do you know that you have reached this relaxed emotional state? Some common signs are: you are not thinking much, you are having a good time, your feet feel heavy and firmly planted on the ground, and your breathing is deep, slow, and even.

There may even be a warm sensation inside your body. And if you put awareness on a specific area of your body (for example the bottom of your left foot, your right index finger, your dick, and balls) you can almost isolate and feel that body part.

By now your body language and facial expression should already look very calm and relaxed. You’ve built a solid foundation for looking masculine in your photos. The hardest part of the photoshoot is over, congrats.

If the photographer can find the right angles and your most flattering side, your non-verbal signals will be good enough already for Tinder. But we are not here to settle for “good enough”, are we? How do we take our non-verbal signals to the next level and crush the photoshoot?

We will go in-depth about all those in the next part of the post, stay tuned!