Biz Series - How to Network with Successful People

Introduction

Today I’d like to talk about how to make friends with people who are older and more successful than you.

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have friends who are your equals. But you also need to network with people who are way ahead of you in life and who can teach you things about money, women, etc.

These are the 5 things I do to befriend guys who can act as mentors and inspirations in life.

You have to show confidence and potential

When you first meet these people, you need to be realistic about yourself. You are not their equals and they have very few reasons to be friends with you by default.

But this does not mean you should act like a bitch and kiss their asses all the time. You need to respect yourself and believe in your potential.

When you hang around people like this, you can adopt this mentality:

“Yeah of course I respect you and admire your achievements, but one day I too will get to where you are at”

You have to shut up and listen

You need to be humble when you are around people who are smarter and more successful than you. Drop your ego, admit to yourself that you don’t know shit and you can learn from others.

I struggled with this too when I was 18-21 years old. I would rather live in my delusional bubble and tell myself lies such as people were only more successful than me because they were unethical cheaters or just got lucky.

So I didn’t have to admit to myself that I was failing because I was being a lazy loser who was mentally weak and I needed to get my shit together.

I think it was an ego defensive mechanism from having low self-esteem. But eventually, I humbled myself, became honest with where I was at in life and I was finally willing to listen and learn from others.

Once I did that I began to make progress in life much faster and easier.

You have to be positive and likable

Successful people do not want to be around people who only complain and never take real action. That is loser energy and it is repulsive to people who are on their grind and hold themselves to high standards.

It’s not like successful guys don’t have compassion and love for others. Most successful dudes I know live in true abundance and they want to help others win in life as well.

When I was in my early 20s I still had no money, no charisma and I had no girls. But I was committed to improving my situation. And I was always positive and a massive action-taker.

Whenever I met someone good with girls/money who was also willing to teach me things. I always made sure I went out and implemented their advice. And I would tell them what I did, what results I got and ask for more clarification and feedback.

I was a dumbass and a loser, but I was always likable and entertaining to be around. And I respected people’s time and effort. That’s why smart people were more willing to help me.

Drop the victim mentality, excuses, and inaction. No successful people would help you if you act like you don’t wanna be helped.

You have to proactively offer value

Altruism is a lie. Very few people are truly selfless and almost every relationship is a value exchange.

If you want to network with guys with more status, connections, and wisdom than you. It would help if you thought about what these people could want from you and how you can provide value to these guys.

Don’t ask people how you can help them. Busy people already have shit going on and they don’t want to do more thinking for you. You need to figure it out yourself without asking them, be proactive.

For me, it’s always been photography. I’ve made friends with a lot of guys who are more successful in business and dating by helping them with IG/Dating photos.

These people wanted to get nice photos of themselves to stand out on IG and get more social and professional contacts. And I could help them with that.

And in exchange, they could teach me how to make money and dance with the feminine. And of course, we would grow our friendship and connect on other things as time goes on.

This is what works for me and you can apply the same principle to your own life.

You have to do the work to maintain the relationship

In most cases, important people are very busy and already have loads of friends who are on their level, and they are also trying to network with people who are even more successful than them.

You will not be the center of their lives and they will likely not reach out to you as much. It is up to you to do the heavy lifting to maintain the relationship.

If you throw a cool party, invite your successful friends to the party. If you find a cool article or funny meme your successful friends can relate to, DM and share them with your successful friends. You get the idea. But don’t overdo it, reach out to them once every month or two at max.

Conclusion

So,

These are the 5 things I do to make friends with people who can teach me things about business and women. And this is how I get invited to penthouse and boat parties. Try these out in your own life!